tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-229641037468972871.post6922230896860967236..comments2023-10-16T00:53:07.195-07:00Comments on RATEDRACH: More thoughts..Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00997899442730877663noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-229641037468972871.post-41884897853281377052012-02-16T10:22:27.202-08:002012-02-16T10:22:27.202-08:00It pains me to hear of someone else going through ...It pains me to hear of someone else going through something similar except far worse. Marriage is sacred and i'm disgusted by his actions. But I do understand the feeling of wanting to work it out because despite it all, your love was real and u cant deny that. Wow this comment was truly deep. I thought he really wanted it and wanted to work it out, but the truth of the matter is that he didn't, it was just easier for him. His heart wasn't in it at all.<br />Thank you for writing such a powerful comment!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00997899442730877663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-229641037468972871.post-26903704113849462512012-02-12T10:41:27.283-08:002012-02-12T10:41:27.283-08:00I have a freind of mine who is going through some ...I have a freind of mine who is going through some similar issues. She was married for nearly 15 years and found out that he had been cheating on her for almost the duration of the marriage. She was of course devestated. She loved him very much and tried several times to work it out. His heart was just not in it. I think both people have to really want it and have to be present to work it out. <br /><br />The atteachment to this other person is significant. You have shared several expereicnes together, including feelings (negative and positive), and have trusted each other with each other most personal thoughts. As human beings we want to make peace and make amends and not "stir the pot." We have so much inviested in our significant others that we just can't let go and walk away. In a sense, we are leaving a piece of ourselves if we decide to leave someone. This is one of the hardest things to do. We, as a society, have a hard time letting go, even if we know somehting is not good for us. We will struggle and oscillate between wanting to stick it out and wanting to leave and start over. This is very difficult because our emotions cloud our judegment and we dont always make the best decision. Sometimes it takes something like this to help us put things in perspective and help decide what we want and what is really best for us. These are just some of my ramblings. Anyway, take care and I hope you find solice soon.DGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17882138896546080836noreply@blogger.com